Elizabeth, an information technology manager at a local government agency, is an athletic woman, efficient in her movements. So begins the fifth session of Our Whole Lives (OWL): Sexuality Education for Adults, at the First Unitarian Church of Austin. "It was just nice to be touched at all," says Judith.Many older adults are remaining or becoming sexually active.This is because of better health among older adults, longer lifespans, more open attitudes toward sexuality, internet dating, and the availability of medications like Viagra and estrogen products.A person can have an STI and not know it because the symptoms are not obvious.And some symptoms of STIs or HIV, such as tiredness, can be mistaken for age-related health problems."My husband of 13 years always accused me of being frigid because I never had an orgasm with him," she says."After we split up, I definitely learned I wasn't frigid. Which was fun." The women marvel that virtually all of them have had distressful sexual experiences.
Hold the condom at the base (open end) as you remove it. Your provider can also recommend treatments for common sexual problems such as vaginal dryness and erectile dysfunction (difficulty getting an erection, also known as ED).They can also recommend treatments for conditions that can affect your sex life, such as incontinence.Effective treatments for vaginal dryness include over-the-counter moisturizers and lubricants, and prescription estrogen creams, tablets, and rings that you insert vaginally.Finally, Eugene picks up a pen and writes down "first time had sex." The other men slowly begin to join in. Judith says the exercise made her realize that one huge thing she can't control about her sexuality is her fading looks. The women return her you're-out-of-your-mind look, so she explains: "When I was young, I'd see these older women and they just seemed as if they had confidence and were wise—and more comfortable in their skin. "I didn't get any mileage out of being cute when I was young.Together they manage to write: "accidentally masturbated," "masturbated," "first time had sex," "prostate," and "Viagra." Tuttle calls time and invites the students to look at the timelines. "Like, I'm still looking at 40-year-old men," Judith says, "but they're not looking back." A few of the other women agree. I'm much more comfortable in my skin today than I was at 30, 25, 20, and definitely 15." "How? Maybe that's the positive side of not being cute or flirty at 20—when you don't get that attention at 45, you haven't lost anything." A little later, Judith admits that she can think of a few good things that result from getting older.Use one condom and lubricant every time you have vaginal, oral, or anal sex, including during foreplay, until you know your partner’s sexual history, STI status, and are in a sexually exclusive relationship.Using water-based lubricants such as K-Y Jelly and Astroglide is important because they can lower the chances of getting a sore or tiny cut on the penis or inside the vagina.Nine middle-aged men and women are sitting in a circle in a cluttered, colorful classroom in a church annex in Austin. Her husband, Eugene, sitting nearby, was raised in Spain and has handsome features and courtly manners. "Touch one of your hands with the other," she says. Tonight's class is one of 14 in the seven-month course, which is the result of an initiative of the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) and the United Church of Christ (UCC).Judith, the oldest, is an artist, and her long, curly gray hair is piled into a messy halo atop her head. "Feel the smoothness and roughness of all the various parts, the places where it's dry or moist." Some of the students close their eyes as they follow her instructions. Since 1998 the institutions have coproduced sex education materials for children ages 5 to 18; as church leadership reexamined the curricula, they noticed a need for age-appropriate material for grown-ups.(Besides sex, HIV/AIDS can also be acquired by sharing syringe needles.) Before having sex, check your partner’s penis or vaginal area for sores, abnormal discharges, or odors.The best way to protect yourself and your partner is for the two of you to get tested for HIV and other STIs before you start having sex.