Thinking that if you met the “right person” everything would turn out “right”? In The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century.
Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation! The part of “the talk” that was never talked about. Andy Stanley’s straight talk approach will shatter your perceptions and preconceived notions about love, sex, and dating in today’s world.
Communicator, author, and pastor Andy Stanley founded Atlanta-based North Point Ministries in 1995. As I mentioned in the introduction, more is what this book is all about. On a personal note, it's why I love going home at the end of the day. Attraction Matters Before we explore more, let's think together for just a paragraph or two about what makes a right person a right person. Online dating services wouldn't work if people didn't have lists. Since the title of this book promises SEX, I thought we should introduce the topic in this first chapter. as long as you promise to come back and read the first seven chapters. I'm sexually compatible with a million other people. I know, sounds like something your momma would say.
Today, NPM consists of six churches in the Atlanta area and a network of more than 90 churches around the globe that collectively serve nearly 185,000 people weekly. Problem is, we don't hear much about the more side of the relational equation. There are a number of factors, among them beauty, talent, confidence, intelligence, depth, wit, family, wealth, weight, height, career, and personality. But at the end of the day, our lists are not the deciding factors, are they? But as I'm fond of saying, falling in love is easy; it requires a pulse. When a relationship feels right, it's a powerful thing. It's no wonder that the righter a relationship feels, the quicker we are tempted to take things further. Not only is sex not the litmus test for relational compatibility, it actually inhibits and distracts from relational development. Because sex has the capacity to camouflage an endless list of relational deficiencies and dysfunctions.
Drawing on his many years as a pastor of a burgeoning church, Andy Stanley has seen more than his fair share of relationship struggles.
Instead, I believe a clear definition of love and what to look for in a future spouse needs to be discussed in various ways as they mature.
Another reason is that I volunteer at my local crisis pregnancy center, where I meet numerous young women who are often trapped in emotionally, physically, and spiritually draining, unrewarding relationships. Whether you are starting fresh or starting over this book is for you too. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.” “Sexual compatibility is important. But sexual compatibility is not the litmus test for relational compatibility.” “You can’t change another person for the better any more than that person can change you…If you’re in a relationship because you believe your is going to help you change, you’re wasting your most valuable resource: time.
**I received this book free as a member of the Family Christian Blogger program. To put it bluntly, you’re wasting your life.” “Romance is sustained by patience, kindness, humility and a short memory.
In this book, Andy Stanley takes an very direct approach by presenting the facts, anecdotes, and pastoral advice aimed at breaking the cycle of broken relationships.
He addresses our propensity for mistaking sexual capability with relationship compatibility, the falsehood that we can change the behaviors of others, the importance of preparing ourselves for the marriage, [for men] what it means to be a gentleman – not just a man, and finally a thorough definition of a love worth having and holding onto.