In real life, with post-coital smoking comes many passion-killers: cigarette burns on bed linen; overflowing ashtrays on the nightstand; nicotine breath; trails of ash across your chest like the Eyjafjallajökull volcano. Keep your ideas big, the method of achievement vague and the tone aspirational.
So, yes to those travel plans, small business ideas, and no to wanting to be the first man in the country to eat a burger the size of Brentford and live.
The adrenaline subsides, your breathing returns to normal, you’ve both been in the animalistic throes of passion – but now you’re yourselves again. Feedback is important for most things – if constructive it can guarantee you a good time, every time.
Don’t be afraid to say what you liked, or would like to try next time.
Yes, of course, you’re still girlfriend material If you choose to have sex on the first date, it should not have any impact on your eligibility as a partner.
Plenty of couples officially get together after they've done the deed on their first date, so sexing early on shouldn't be a barrier if you’re vibing with each other, and there's mutual consent.
Keep it realistic, though; now is not the time to float the idea of trading in the children for a Maserati.
What better way to replace the calories you just burned off?
You will also need to explain to your partner that you’re off to the gym and not settling down for cuddles, so good luck with that one. In movies it always look very glamorous, but movies are movies and your bedroom is not. For a fuller experience, draw them even nearer and try to remain perfectly still as their hair burrows into your nostrils and gives you that scratchy grass pollen thrill, their heartbeat thudding against your own. In no way will your brain be fizzling like a glass of Coca-Cola on top of a tumble dryer. Maybe keep it light, avoiding any big pronouncements. One subject suited to a post-nut glow is your dreams and aspirations – the perfect licence to talk yourself up.Word of advice, though: Before you hop into bed, just be clear on what you’re looking for (a relationship? ) so you can both make informed choices and be honest about your expectations.A few readers speak from personal experience: “Sex on the first date is so over-thought, especially nowadays with apps like Tinder and Bumble making the topic less taboo.Virginity was a stand-in for purity and morality, a misogynistic ideal that was—and is—used to repress female sexuality.It’s why men today still aren't slut-shamed, while women often are.Research has shown the first few minutes after sex are a good time for requesting favours.Assuming you’ve done a decent job, it’s said partners who are more likely to be willing to do stuff for you – or agree to your ideas – in those cosy few moments.I think I’d agree to marry/hand over all my passwords to/rob a bank for anyone who, straight after doing it, turned to me, waggled their mobile phone in my face and said, "Shall I order a pizza?"As euphoric as the post-coital period can be, that miserable buzzkill hormone prolactin is waiting in the wings to bring you down from that high.It’s a good way to build intimacy once it's over.An hour-long one-star-rating diatribe about how terrible it was won’t go down well – and will directly result in nobody in the vicinity going down on scientists, that is, of course.