Here things get more complicated, because humans are a special species with “dual mating dynamic” – a male can either have casual sex and leave a woman a single mother, or he can invest in his offspring – feed, teach and protect them.
While many people have rudimentary understanding of the concept, many are confused why the partner does not show behavior consistent with one of these mating dynamics.
Compare this to mating with that nerdy dork with a huge wart on his nose – your brain is repulsed by his appearance, because in principle your children would be just as unattractive, causing them to have harder time finding mates and having successful offspring of their own.
And it might take an equal amount of investment to raise children from these two potential partners, thus your biology is primed to bet on mating with attractive people.
You’ve devoted yourself to the precious work of growth and intimacy.
Now your deepest goal is to find your own lasting love.
And you’ll learn what your deep-down self has been trying to tell you about love and intimacy, probably for a really long time. For links and resources discussed in this episode, please visit our show notes at https://deeperdatingpodcast.com/e48 These four stages lead both to healthy love and profound inner healing; to self-discovery, authentic empowerment and a life much more filled with love.
These aren’t games or gimmicks–they are the lifelong tools of building attraction and deeper love.
In this episode, I’ll share a simple way to stay connected to your heart, develop your sense of discrimination, and lead you most quickly to the love you desire.
Some studies found 94% correlation between male ratings of females.
In other words, if a person is objectively a 7 (attractive), most people would rate that person as a 7, few would rate as 6 or 8, but noone would rate this person as a 4.