Journalist Calvin reckons it’s an extension of the already popular thirst traps, the next level of seduction.“Theoretically people have more dating options than ever,” he says.“Sending nudes is great fun; I haven’t had anyone to send them to me for a while and I kind of miss that adrenaline rush,” she says.Unprompted nudes can have their place, she reckons, but “generally with someone who I’ve been chatting with or dating; I wouldn’t send them to a stranger”.“I’m trying really hard to overcome it,” he says, “but the pressure of being perfect – and as a result, sending nudes that people want to see – is insane."The concern for privacy is growing following high-profile data compromises and the leaking of A-list nudes.
Luke tells me the dating app culture, and trying to make sure his nudes were as good as the competition, led to an eating disorder.Special apps like Private Photo Vault, Best Secret and Secret Calculator (the icon looks like a calculator so snoopers are unlikely to click on it, unless they too have the app of course) can remove nudes from your main photo library and protect them behind a passcode.No more accidentally revealing more than you bargained for when your mates swipe through your holiday snaps.Although sending a naked photo has been possible for years – albeit more grainy, slow to load, or even in print, the farther back in time you go – it’s only in the last few years that the act of sending a photo of, or including, your tackle has become a regular NBD part of the seduction process.High-spec cameras, filtering and high-speed internet connections mean you can have the idea, whip it (or them) out, take the snap and send with barely a moment's thought.“I admit the cubicle ones aren’t always the best, so sometimes I’ll do a decent one at home and save it to send to her on Friday.We love it.”Often overlooked is the normalisation of nudes and its effect on body positivity.She says she receives way more than she sends and if she does return them, it’s under her own terms.“When I’ve been asked [to send a nude] it’s off the back of an unsolicited pic from them and they’ve requested tit for tat – literally.I never send them under those circumstances.”Unwelcome nudes are the top turnoff, but a close second would be a nude photo with zero artistry.There’s something quite depressing about asking for a nude and then being sent a snap, shot from above, of a red, angry penis subjected to the mercy of ugly lighting and a careless photographer. Most women I spoke to agreed they tended to take more time over them, composing them to look not only sexy, but feel confident too. Lingerie designer Marisa says a topless pic does much more for her than a gonzo-shot dick pic and she much prefers to send than receive – when she can.