My sister saved me in those first few months and she was the one who found the Rutland Centre.
It was so hard to accept that this was an illness, but the way I looked at it, if my husband had been suffering from cancer, I would not have turned my back on him.
It was an incredibly lonely time because his sex addiction had to stay hidden to protect our children.
I withdrew and couldn’t even relate to people I loved dearly.
They will think life is relatively normal and then they discover lots of pornography on the computer, or that the person they are with has been meeting others for sex and it comes as such a shock.
“They usually have lots of questions that there aren’t clear answers to initially and they need to be careful of their own mental health because it can take a massive toll.” Here, two women who are married to sex addicts share their stories (their names have been changed).