Just prior to celebrating one of the BIG birthdays I did some soul searching and admitted that I had been approaching dating from the wrong perspective.I had always tried to entice and seduce men, using my physical appearance and feminine wiles (which I believed to be all that I had to offer a man), until I recognized the hazardous pattern of deception I was weaving.
For one thing, I think it's really silly that men are expected to be the ones to pursue a woman and be the one to ask if she wants to marry him.I can sense that others are more comfortable in my presence as well and that too is deeply rewarding.I can finally see how much I DO have to offer to a partner and look so very forward to a mutually satisfying relationship. I am single, yet learning about how to be comfortable in my own skin so when I am confident enough to venture back out into the dating world, I will attract someone who is seeing the real me and not some type of illusion I'm trying to hide behind.With that in mind, opening up and getting to know someone does take a certain amount of patience.Assess each new partner as an individual, and stay keenly connected with how you experience yourself while in his or her presence.Meeting someone new from such an authentic place within myself was the best decision I could possibly have made. I wanted to connect with someone genuinely and truly and that's exactly what happened.Finally, I am comfortable in my own skin and this makes it easier for me to connect with others.I went deep inside of myself to where I truly reside and stayed there, peaceful and still.I met my date, Rob, at a coffee shop, still deeply in touch with my self and enjoyed the most rewarding first date I'd ever had.Rob and I will go out on our 4th date tonight :) Peace y'all, Denise What a lovely story, Denise! Congrats on reaching your true self and braving the dating world with comfortable success.I can totally relate to how you used to approach dating, feeling like you only have your appearance to offer. Your comment has really made me think about my self-worth and how I interact with men... The reality is, both genders are addicted to scripts that were forged from early life history experiences.