In a study conducted in collaboration with Planned Parenthood in 1997, feminist academic Lynn M.
Phillips interviewed “a racially and socially diverse group” of 127 teenage girls in teen-adult relationships, and women who had been in teen-adult relationships in their own teens.
This past weekend, J and I were talking about, how, every time we go on a date and have a couple drinks (with the intention of being all romantic and having sexy times) it usually backfires.
Some psychiatrists say that young people under “19 or 20” should only date within a few years of their own age.
Kelly and 15-year-old Aaliyah in 1994; 24-year-old Elvis Presley and 14-year-old Priscilla Presley in 1959; 38-year-old Jerry Seinfeld and 17-year-old Shoshanna Lonstein in 1993) — to the ones that unsettle us when we remember how they began (people tend to forget that Don Johnson started dating Melanie Griffith when he was 22 and she was 14; the late Paul Walker began dating his wife Jasmine Pilchard-Gosnell when he was 33 and she was 16; Wilmer Valderrama dated Mandy Moore, Lindsay Lohan, and Demi Lovato when they were all under the legal age of consent). In 2004, when I was 13, Hilary Duff — then 16 and the star of seems to have taken the approach of not covering a couple at all while one member is under the age of consent — they have noticeably not covered Lily-Rose Depp and Ash Stymest’s relationship, though they have written many stories on Depp’s fashion sense, and adult fawning coverage of the same couple, and other couples with one member under the age of consent.
But there’s some cognitive dissonance when a couple with a large age gap (like Tyga and Jenner) is criticized or not mentioned at all while the younger member is 16 or 17, but as soon as the younger member turns 18, the couple is all of a sudden portrayed as #relationshipgoals.
“We leave personal questions out of this,” he smiles.
, which describes itself as offering “Inclusive, comprehensive, supportive sexuality and relationships info for teens and emerging adults,” spells out the problems with teenage girl-adult man relationships in a 2008 essay called “Why I Deeply Dislike Your Older Boyfriend”: “I feel like he knows — and enjoys — that he has more power than you do right now due to his age or gender, and that rather than seeking to share it, or helping you nurture and own your own power, he wants to keep his power, and take yours from you to have it all for himself.