But adolescents are humans, too — no matter how alien they may seem to their parents at times.
I mean, you can’t really count on your crush being your lab partner, tutor, or carpool buddy — sadly, life isn’t a YA novel.
On top of that, sending your kids the message that dating is wrong seems ripe for a world of both internal and external conflict., you create fear and shame around normal teenage romantic impulses,” says Ana Homayoun, an educator, speaker and author of several books aimed at helping parents raise healthy, engaged kids in an era dominated by the pressures of social media.
“If you’re not allowing kids the opportunities to practice interacting with people they’re attracted to, you’re denying them the opportunity to develop healthy relationship skills.”Jean Twenge, author of “i Gen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy — and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood,” points out that a dad who attempts to prevent his daughter from dating may not only be wasting his efforts, but also may be missing the teaching moment.
When a date wasn’t going as expected, I called my dad to come pick me up.
My family helped shape my dating standards and gave me the confidence to stick to them.